Peaceful Divorce

In North Carolina, a husband and wife must be separated for at least a year before filing for an absolute divorce.  Prior to the divorce, the vast majority of couples resolve their marital issues by entering a separation agreement, a contract that reflects the agreements they've reached regarding division of property, support, parenting, and other issues. Getting to the point where the agreements have been reached is often the hardest part. Strong emotions often get in the way of making the necessary decisions. The grief of the parting may make communication a challenge that doesn't seem surmountable. And, it may be hard to see an agreement that allows both to go forward and be okay. Resources may be scarce and the answers unclear.

At Healers of Conflicts Law & Conflict Resolution Center, we understand that divorce is a difficult time even if the level of conflict is low. In high conflict, it seems too painful to bear. We have helped many others through the process of separating. We've been through it ourselves. Marriages end for many reasons. Some wounds are too deep to heal at this time. Some relationships bring out the worst in one or both partners. And sometimes two people just take different paths and they recognize, often very painfully, that it is time to part ways and wish each other well on the next steps of their life journeys. As the relationship ends, all the hopes and dreams of the relationship die with it. It is a period of extreme grief and self-doubt.

In the midst of all the emotions, it can be hard to imagine ever wanting to speak to your spouse again, much less sit down and work out your issues. You may think there is no possibility of working anything out ever again. However, if you have children, you must create a working relationship with the other parent. If you don't, all of you  - you, your spouse, and your children - will be harmed. Even if you have no children, you probably do have common friends and a common community.

In our Peaceful Divorce approach, we use many conflict resolution and coaching tools to help you create workable agreements that create your new lives and bring closure to your marriage. In many cases, we bring in the help of experts from other disciplines--therapists, child specialists, financial experts, to assist us in making progress. We will help you articulate your highest intentions and to create your agreements based on your needs rather than positions. Our goal is to help you create a win-win solution for all.

Our level of services will depend on how much you and your spouse can agree on without our help. Visit the following pages for more information:

Drafting the Separation Agreement

Document Review

Mediation

Collaborative Law

Divorce Coaching

The Peaceful Divorce approach isn't appropriate for all couples. Some issues, including extreme violence, active addictions, untreated mental illness and others, may require court intervention. We'd be happy to consult with you to determine whether this approach can work for you.

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